Experiences both good and bad shape who we are and how we move forward in our lives. We might think that a bad or not pleasant experience is dreadful or a disaster, we make them into bigger than they are, our language is important, how we describe these experience matters! All these experiences are just that! Experiences! They are outcomes, things happening in a time and place, they are indifferent really, however they become something when we give them meaning. Please avoid giving things meaning/associations unnecessarily, it can make a good situation bad, a bad situation worse. Things happen the way they are suppose to at that moment in time, difficult to understand I know, but feelings like "I can't believe I did this or that". Firstly, this does not help and does not make us either feel better or move towards a more confident self or help us be more comfortable in our own skin. This only makes us over think things and you know what "over thinking is?" Dangerous. I am definitely one to do this but not as much anymore because I realise that it is disempowering to think about an event or situation after it has happened, after it is dead and gone... forget it, it is done and dusted. Why am I writing about this? Because I once looked into things too much, I once could not let go... but now, I do, I just ask myself the right questions and I can more easily forget. What questions? "Is this benefiting me or some other purpose?" If not, "Why is it still here?" It shouldn't be, unless that feeling is trying to tell you something, find out what and then you will be able to let it go and be more powerful than you ever imagined. Powerful in the sense of feeling absolutely comfortable and self confident, like a really strong unlimited force that is at ease, feels grateful, feels fulfilled.
So should we feel bad for things example - not saying thank you when you should have or no matter what it is? Even very ordinary things can make us feel not so good. I believe we should just accept things happen the way they happen, if we make an effort to do what we can do at the time, then let it go. Do pay attention if a nagging feeling persists, do solve it, ideal question is "what is this feeling telling me?" "Why does this keep coming up for me?" Keep asking until you find an answer, which you will, believe me, persistance pays off! I think "neutral" is the place to be in our lives, don't get me wrong, you can still be excited about things, I don't mean show no emotion, definitely not but I mean when it comes to "over analysing" think neutral i.e. if you find yourself going towards a feeling bad scenario, think neutral like, this actually means nothing, there is no meaning in this. No meaning is better than negative, not benefiting you thoughts. So what is the point of all this, to make you feel better of course, no other reason. I want to help other like I have helped myself and like I continue to do with my commitment to constant and never ending improvement.
So should we feel bad for things example - not saying thank you when you should have or no matter what it is? Even very ordinary things can make us feel not so good. I believe we should just accept things happen the way they happen, if we make an effort to do what we can do at the time, then let it go. Do pay attention if a nagging feeling persists, do solve it, ideal question is "what is this feeling telling me?" "Why does this keep coming up for me?" Keep asking until you find an answer, which you will, believe me, persistance pays off! I think "neutral" is the place to be in our lives, don't get me wrong, you can still be excited about things, I don't mean show no emotion, definitely not but I mean when it comes to "over analysing" think neutral i.e. if you find yourself going towards a feeling bad scenario, think neutral like, this actually means nothing, there is no meaning in this. No meaning is better than negative, not benefiting you thoughts. So what is the point of all this, to make you feel better of course, no other reason. I want to help other like I have helped myself and like I continue to do with my commitment to constant and never ending improvement.
